This is a frequent topic in my conversations with my sister, who lives in Argentina, where I’m from. The superficiality of many connections and the difficulty of finding people with who to be our true selves without fear of judgement.

I think that part of the problem is that often we move with life, while others either move in different directions, or once they find a place where they are comfortable, they stay put while we move.

When I migrated to the U.S. I was met by a Christian religious organization. In short, a Church. At the time, they provided the sole source of my social network. There is where I met my wife an my best friend who lives in Germany and I still make efforts to go to visit every once in a while.

But even then I felt I was living a double life. I sometimes would hung out with a group of Latin American immigrants who lived at the hostel in Hollywood and Highland where I used to stay in LA, and we would do the things that people do, talk, maybe drink, hung out with no particular purpose. Flirt a little. I never been a good closer, so it was only about flirting for me.

Then I would go to Church and study the Bible. People would get upset at me just for talking to women just for the sake of talking to them, let forbid talking to them if they were married or dating. I mean, those were the days in which I would go for a run with anyone interested in running. I still do, but now my runs are more adventurous and not as many people want to join me.

Bottom line is that after being a “good boy” for many years, this issues come to life once again. My wife would never consider poly, and I don’t know if I would (maybe mostly because it brings the issue of honesty, which let’s face it, being a liar takes a lot of energy-I do realize poly is not about sex nor a free ticket to sleep with whomever you want, last time I check, the other person wants to hung out with you too).

But I’m curious to a fault and I really enjoy even this talking with you, which you are a woman, a lot.

I also noticed that most of my interactions in Medium are with women.

I would be hard press to state that there is any flirting involved. I would probably say this is highly unlikely. However, many if not most of the people I interact in a sort of regular basis here are women.

Sorry, Elle. I feel I digressed greatly.

The point is I feel your pain.

There are few people with whom to be authentic and honest without fear of judgement.

But they are there.

I like Medium because connections are easy to maintain. Here I drop a note, and you answer whenever you can.

Of course, there is something to feel the presence of a human body close to us, while drinking coffee across the table. Feeling the energy, the immediate impact of our words in them.

Now it downs me. I’ve been writing for a while. I hope I did not bore you too much!

(I hope I cheered you up a bit)

Pablo